Remember the Good Too!

Heartbroken? Hurt?

Many times we are quick to cancel or discard or cut dead — people who disappoint us. It can also be, as a result of hurtful words: offensive words … one act forgotten; or one event missed. We quickly carry off to cut off people, and perhaps they could have been in a harder and inevitable situation themselves.

Before you fall out with them, find out why they didn’t make it in the first place. Be slow to judge; be slow to jump to conclusions.

The other advice I’d give is: before you cut someone off completely, remember the good times too. Yes. Ensure you do. You could find, that the good memories far surpass the number of times that person has let you down. You’d find that the times they helped you back to your feet far outweigh the one incident that has made you mad over them.

Be slow to speak, slow to get angry and quick to listen, as James the Apostle exhorted us so.

This carries on even for God Himself. You’d be mad that your miracle has delayed. Your spouse or child or job promotion. But this same God has ensured you never lacked still. You are complaining about the manna. But you forgot how He drowned the Egyptians (your enemy) after you had passed the Red Sea.

I was having my own tantrums, and I remembered how I made so much noise testifying about Him getting me an iPhone 13 pro early last year, an iPhone 16 later still (all worth about 6 million shillings) and ensuring I graduated from Architecture School.

Remembering refreshes. Remembering rejuvenates. Remembering renews. It renews your strength helping you mount on wings as eagles, enabling you to soar in Him again — higher — or trusting that one friend again.

Remembering reconciles too.