Do not Awaken Love | Virgin Realms

The phrase ‘do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases’ appears thrice in the legendary classic Song of Solomon. Biblical scholars understand the meaning of ‘thrice.’

Recently, my mind had wandered off to realms I never meant to go: how does having sex actually look? for example.

I am super grateful that though I’m bracketed as a Gen Z, I grew up with the younger millennials. Our younger baby boomer parents never ever at once brought up the topic of sex. My mom even lied to us that my younger siblings — firstly the twins — were picked from a rubbish pit; and the last was bought from the supermarket. I believed it, until I was taught at school the reproductive system.

There is a record of floggings in my house. Please — my parents were not wicked. My dad used to bring some officers to discipline some older cousins who were often rumored to be with wild boys.

They were teens by then, and I do not mean to shame them. They were still in high school, but were potentially with child or risking to have. The wild boys were equally school dropouts, and back then, there was a certain order of things. One had to be married, because the history of children being born out of wedlock was ever burgeoning on both sides of the family. My parents were trying to put a stop to it.

A decent education is a bare minimum in a late 20th and early 21st century African household. A commitment too was paramount of course — after evidence of sources of income for both members of the couple. Then children could come in after a house — or so I saw my parents do.

So the notion of me having sex, is usually in word. My mind can’t seem to paint a picture as it’s still a virgin realm to me. I call it realm because it seems to shut me out. Virgin because it is unknown to me. It’s like a pleasure gate, where it’s written only those above such an age, who have achieved such and such a thing can enter.

We can clearly see why this is so.

Firstly, from my upbringing, you can see how my parents preserved my innocence, killing any curiosity of the ‘ecstasy’. In fact, it was no ecstasy or ordeal at all. It was an abomination! And so sex did not exist for me, until the age was right and ripe for me to know.

But even when I got to know, I remembered the flogging — knowing it doesn’t permit you to do it! The sage said there is time for everything: in this case, a time to know, and also a time to do.

Secondly, God’s word seems to be the keeper of the pleasurable gate. He already told me not to ‘stir up’.

We often stir up these things by our curiosity — which curiosity killed the cat! And our curiosity is fueled by the media, by peer pressure, but mostly the media through the internet and TV shows — shows we watch in secret. Shows that we think are innocent, only to corrupt not only younger boys and girls but the older lads and lasses.

It is wise for us leave these virgin realms alone until we qualify to enter them. The order of things today is of course; education, employment, then marriage and kids. I am not condemning anyone who had a child before marriage; I’m writing down what God was conversing with me.

Whenever my mind races to how sex would look like — specifically I in the act, I can’t register — or it appears to be this nasty grossy thing. But that nasty thing resulted into beautiful beasts like you and me. So why is it nasty to me!

I think it is so, to kill my curiosity. God in His wisdom has done it so so that I do not desire it yet! A preacher said basing on Psalm 84:11 that yes, God will not withhold any good thing from you; and so if He has withheld it from you now, it must be not beautiful — yet, for you!

Some suffer with pornography or masturbation simply because a virgin realm was opened to them when yet not ready for it. So they yearn for sex, even before having a girlfriend of boyfriend. Demons sat on them, driving them to do it either in a way that seems innocent — as I’ve mentioned, or others skulk in shadows to brothels to satisfy that longing.

Maybe they were divorced. Maybe their spouse died. I may not bear advice for those yet.

But this seems inclined to the younger adults, somewhere between graduation and matrimony. Some have married young. Others have been lone rangers decades after their universities.

The pressure increases. Everyone around them is like the daughters of Jerusalem to the Shulamite in Song of Solomon. Their curiosity is roused. Their eroticism is stirred up before it pleases, and on the loose that cupid goes, like a wild dog without a lease.

In my culture, there’s an order of things. To my God, there is an order of things! How can I charter the waters of sex even without having a mate yet? How can I draw a plan of a house before getting land? As an architect, I’ve been taught that the land plot and size and orientation and topography dictate the plan of the house. If you claim it faith, you better begin by believing for plots of land, and then think of the house.

‘Houses you didn’t build’ is another conversation. There, you don’t need a plan, because, God will present to you land and a house; or a house in air!

I’ve told — not told — I have reasoned with God, according to my personal covenant with Him, not to give me a wife before my own house manifests. That is my order of things in our contract. In my case, if I get her before the house, I’d have breached the agreement. It is like midday coming before 11.

You see the prodigal son asked for his inheritance before His father pleased to give it to Him. What happened? He squandered it all. He transgressed the order of things; either first waiting for his father to die, or the order I mentioned first.

All in all, there is unconditional grace for those that have broken their order; just stand up from feeding with the swine and come back home. God is long waiting for your return.

And to those that are virgins in different spaces or things, desist stirring up things until they please.

Last year, I received prophecies of having a car. But God, being true to what He has just said, the first person to tell me anything in that regard texted me saying, ‘you need to get a driving permit’ at 5:56am on June 27th, 2023. Now. I do not know how to drive yet. The car is somewhere; ready for me, but am I ready for it?

I know what I must do first, and then it shall stir itself up. My preparation will qualify ‘its pleasing’, but until then, I can’t scream standing up when the pastor declares ‘receive your car.’

I have it or … them.

A calendar from Cafe Javas, (a fast food franchise here in Uganda) had a car receiving diesel on its November page. The food franchise is located on multiple petrol stations called City Oil, thus the having of the cars as well after the first pages 10 advertising only food.

Another prophet had just declared that he saw our home full of cars — it was a struggle finding parking space. The evidence was all around. And when I flipped the December calendar page, there was another car, driving off speedily. God had spoken. But the order states I go to driving school first. The rest will fall in place.

I am praying for you, that you are not pressured to do things you are not ready for.

I pray that wherever you could have entered prematurely, that God’s grace gets you out, or matures you for the next step ahead. I pray that the wrongs done to you by some who were curious God turn for good!

And I pray you do not arouse others to go into realms they are not ready or prepared for. A child may have been gifted by his or her parent a car — or they have so many cars in their homestead, but unless they are 16 or 18, it’s against the law for them to be behind the steering wheel unless under instruction by the driving school teacher.

May God’s spirit be that teacher, readying you for all spiritual blessings in the heavenly places that have been availed to you, and saturating you with patience for what you are not ready for.

May God be the only love you stir up or awaken, for before you ever were even made in your mother’s womb, you were awake and stirred up in Him without whom you are unable to do!

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Song of Solomon 2:7 I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake [my] love, till he please.

The Shulamite cautions others not to awaken her love. This can both be seen as in context, where she means her lover, or by another eye meaning her erotic love within — as the New King James version generalizes. (Do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases.)

Thus, you see how others play a role to awaken what is not meant to be stirred up. Guard your heart or walk away when you sense such.

And … virginity isn’t limited to humans but to things too. Just like you may not know something now, some acts should not know you until a specific time tee!

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Song of Solomon 2:7 Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe–and you’re ready. (Msg)