The Groom’s Responsibility

Dear Gentlemen, let’s learn from Jesus;

As you learn from me, know that I’m still learning as well, and I am glad God is providing insight so that we don’t suffer as the men of this world;

Below are the responsibilities of a groom (husband). If you are a man, and would love to marry another man’s daughter, pick a leaf, or if you are married, this still applies until death do you apart;

The Groom Invites;

Song of Solomon 2:4 He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me [was] love.

The message version says;

He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on [me]! Oh! Give me something refreshing to eat–and quickly! Apricots, raisins–anything. I’m about to faint with love!

The man invites. Let that sink in. He pays the dinner he has invited the bride to. Look at Jesus. He loved us before any of us loved Him. He found a restaurant, paid the bill & then invited you.

Dear brides, when a man invites you to a meal, read between the lines. It might not be The One, but I pray you do not miss the hint when he’s the One!

Other girls ask,’Can’t I pay the bill?’ Well, you could if you invited the guy! But it’s a man’s honor to clear the bill. Imagine if Jesus took you on a date, I don’t think he’d feel good if you stole his moment to bless. For much more blessed it is to give!

As the groom, paying the bill is another way to give. When she pays it, that’s a blessing you’ve just been robbed of. And as a man, you need all the blessing you can get!

The Groom Embraces;

Song of Solomon 2:6 His left hand [is] under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me.

It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been smitten or have had shade thrown on you. A husband ought to be selfless. His mind is on the bride. Just like Jesus heavily expressed this.

‘What about me?’ You may ask. ‘Who will lift my head up. Who will embrace me?’

God WILL! He’s your source of Love. He’s Love itself! Draw from Him and it’ll overflow to your bride. Spend time with Him in your secret place and He’ll show you how to lift your bride’s head and embrace her, after Him lifting your head and embracing you!

The Groom Waits;

Song of Solomon 2:9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: behold, he standeth behind our wall, he looketh forth at the windows, shewing himself through the lattice…

The groom/husband waits. He waits for her to get ready. We see him trying to look through the winow, figurative of him waiting in the theme scripture.

It’d still be getting late but he waits for her in the drive way. He waits for her to finish talking to her friends. He waits for her to come around.

She’d be impatient but he waits. She’d be a backbiter but he waits. She’d be a bad cook but he waits. Or you’d be throwing hints but she is not seeing them… Wait!

Many marriages are failing because men have failed to wait! Just imagine Jesus failed to wait on you…Would salvation have come? The Groom ought to be patience itself!

The Groom Woos & Worships;

Song of Solomon 2:14 Come, my shy and modest dove–leave your seclusion, come out in the open. Let me see your face, let me hear your voice. For your voice is soothing and your face is ravishing. (Msg)

To woo is to solicit in love / win someone over! To worship not only applies to God but it’s other meaning is to adore.

Our verse says, the man asked the bride to leave his seclusion. I’ve discovered a way how Great men make brides leave their seclusion.

These Great men post their photos as they speak lovely words about them! It’s because they’ve found such beauty in the bride’s face & heart that they gatta tell the whole world about her!

I’ve found many of these brides not posting the men. Or if they do; then it’s once in a very long while! It doesn’t matter. Jesus posted our photos everywhere. How many times have we posted his?

He loved us that much, even before we got to know His love exists. The groom must make the choice to adore the bride at whatever cost. Whether she posts his photos or not! Whether she returns the love or not!

The Groom Protects & Pursues;

Song of Solomon 2:15 Then you must protect me from the foxes, foxes on the prowl, Foxes who would like nothing better than to get into our flowering garden.(Msg)

The Groom never participates in the slandering of the bride. Groom Hosea never did even when his wife became a prostitute! That’s exactly Jesus’ love towards His bride—The Church.

Your father or mother might still not be satisfied by your choice. We don’t care! Cover her! Don’t tell her what they said of her! Cover her!

In the streets other ladies might mock her. Don’t repeat what they said. Your friends might make fun of her. Don’t make mention of it to her. Above all, don’t be the one who calls her insufficient!

Don’t be the one calling her irresponsible in front of the kids and in front of the visitors. Be her number one fan! I pray over you that you love her like Christ has loved the Church!

The Holy Spirit will enable you to!

Lastly; about pursuing. This goes out to the bachelors. And do this only when God has showed you The Right Bride. Keep pursuing. She’d be playing hard to get. She’d still prefer you in the friend zone…

She’d think you are joking. She’d think you are still a boy! She’d be shocked that you manned up! But oh well; Continue inviting, continue embracing, continue waiting, continue wooing and worshipping. For all these sum up to pursuing!

When you feel fed up, remember Jesus had to continue all these before you finally came around. Like you, perhaps you never saw the hints… But he persisted in the pursuing, until your eyes opened to the reality…

That there was no other.