If you never read the previous blog, please do before you embark on this next one inorder to understand where we are coming from;
https://biggiesbigblogs.wordpress.com/2019/08/03/before-eros-agape-was/
It’s so sad the world we live in today! I have never seen a more father less generation! And by Father I mean God. Thus, a God-less generation. Godliness is goodness, but goodness is not Godliness! Today we have many good people. Good acts… philanthropist deeds… But the call requires more than that!
It’s easier for goodness to flow out of Godliness, that’s why God calls us to pursue the higher objective– Godliness, instead.
1 Peter 1:16 Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.
All the loves have limits except Agape! For philia (familial or sibling love) or storge (friendly love) for example; We could love our siblings so much, but the moment we bring Eros (romantic-sexual love) into the picture; Incest becomes! If parents transcend, adding Eros into Philia, it could become rape!
Eros is simply meant for your spouse! If you’re not married yet, keep the sex on the sidelines! The thoughts will come…yes, but you have self control!
If it is Agape (God’s love/ the love of the soul) we use in all these places, you’d realise, you can’t rape your child, because you love their pure souls! Loving others means drawing the line beyond which you can’t go!
Another common way in which man has erred, is to expect different kinds of love from people or things that can not give them! Men become mad when they do not receive Agape, from a being that hasn’t the slightest clue what Agape is, and what the source of this Agape is therein!
The men who expect this Agape, as well, do not know what it looks like, but by default, every soul has been wired to hunger for this Love; The Love of the Soul.
Many souls have been blinded and deceived that the original source of this love could be something or someone other than God!
There’s no other source for the Love of the Soul, apart from the Maker of Souls! Think of it! Would you desire another dealer to make you an iPhone part… Could one go to Samsung to buy another iPhone screen/ charger? Of course not! They’d need to find an iPhone store to buy fresh parts..
Sadly that’s the kind of situation going on today! Men are seeking replacements of iPhone parts in a store that’s not the Original maker of the brand they use!
“God made us: invented us as a man invents an engine. A car is made to run on petrol, and it would not run properly on anything else. Now God designed the human machine to run on Himself. He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other. That is why it is just no good asking God to make us happy in our own way for He cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there.” ~ C.S Lewis
I used to long for Agape. I’d lost my dad, & I never knew that this void could only be filled by God!
You see when you love something, you let it go. If it’s yours to be loved, it’ll return to you like the Prodigal son returned to his father!
If you hold onto that thing for long you’ll choke it!
I had an elder brother who I felt no love from. I made new brothers along the way, but I could’ve just been expecting SO much from them!
I was expecting Agape from boys who never understood even the A of the very word itself, until I realized, only God can give it! So I turned to Him! I was attempting to replace Agape with Storge!
Longing for Agape is expecting someone to be around all the damn time! In the night, in the afternoon, in the morning… which can’t happen…People have lives…and stuff to attend to!
This is what’s happening with the generation today. They expect one to walk them through the dark, through their dreams, through their flaws, to be there in the summer, in the winter, in the spring, in the failure & in the loss of a loved one…
They expect someone to be there ALL the time… 24/8! 24 hours a day, 65 minutes per hour, 5000 seconds a minute…but do you realize that the love they seek is One that only God can give!
It’s only Him who can be there ALL the time. Only Him! And that, boyfriends or girlfriends can’t give! They are not slaves. They weren’t made to attend to one person all their lives.
They have purposes they were each created for! Thinking you’re the only thing they have to attend to is simply selfish! And love is not selfish!
I then came to realize that since young people have failed to find this pure source of Agape, they settle for less! They write poems claiming they’ll be there! It’s just figurative but not authentic!
They either become lazy to pursue the source of this love or force themselves to think that that’s what romantic love is meant to be forgetting only God can give the fairy tale kind of love!
If a person you love knows not God, be scared! You won’t get that love of the soul…yet! For to have the source of Agape in you, is to radiate what’s within, thus if your partner to be has God in them, Agape will shower upon you as a result! If your lover doesn’t have it, find places that can supply the source of that Love!
This Agape will live forever! So if you have the wrong idea of it now, fix it! EROS IS NOT FOR EVERYONE (unlike Agape)
We’ve become sheep astray, and some lost sheep do not want to be found! We’ve become a No-manual-generation.
We buy appliances and feel like we can figure it out without the manufacturer of these appliances & the directions he has placed for us in a manual! All seems well until the wrong button is pressed!
The appliances are our bodies! We honor God by taking care of them the way He desired them to be treated!
Marriage seems fun until the place unto which its purpose of multiplication (through sex), from you is required! It’s so sad that we’ve degraded it so much to fit just anything.
The standard has fallen! The tools designed for Eros have been defiled! And compromise & mediocrity have arisen!
In a marathon all is well until you decide to take a short cut off the road map provided. Your detour will make you miss out on supply of water, which is provided at various points you might not know! Only when your energy runs out is when you’ll discover that you’re screwed! Get back to the map route!
Men have replaced Agape with Eros displacing it as the standard by which all must fall in love!
Get knowledge and you shall not perish! When thoughts came to my mind trying to confuse me about my sexuality, I ran back to my maker!
Last I checked, I have a male reproductive organ! That means I am male! It never was a mistake that I was so made by my maker! If you have a female one, that means it wasn’t a mistake that God made you that way either!
After settling the matter of sexuality in your mind, and having the love order settled as well, l believe, a sense & state of confusion will be disannuled!
The world has come up with its form of doctrines! What is illegal to God has been made legal, by men who think He is a myth and invisible. But this is a cry of His love; that we all repent from the Idea the world has manufactured of True, pure Love.
Romans 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].
What am doing is to educate… All these series we watch, all you see are desperate youths awakening young love yet having no idea what love is!
All in all you see massive lack of knowledge concerning the matter of love, and I believe, that this article has provided a clear line of what is and what is not…and of what is to be applied when and what is not to be applied where!
Hosea 4:6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…
Since God loves by Agape, He loves us by our souls. If he sees that we lack knowledge concerning anything, He’ll ensure we get it! Whether he’ll make men in suits shout it on the streets, or make it appear as an ad on your phone, He’ll do whatever…
For to live without you in eternity is a burden too heavy for Him to bear! He is the Lord of time! He’ll create as much as He needs to save you. He’ll even cause whales to deliver your postmen that bear his mail to you by any means possible!
O how bottomless Agape is! It shall exist forever, just like you, that’s why by it, you ought to love!
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