There is a child (last born) who when the toilet in their bathroom was occupied, always went to use her parents’ toilet. Even if they were not around, I felt it was crossing the line.
Some children (and I don’t mean those that don’t understand) waltz into their parents’ rooms, or any other grown up’s without first knocking. What if they walk in to a naked parent! One can’t recover from that!
Noah’s sons fell victim, even if it was his fault that he was drunk. One son laughed and mocked his father while the others walked backwards to cover him. The former received a curse for that. It didn’t fall on him but to his son Canaan.
In the future, we see the land of Canaan being given away to Israel, and Canaan’s descendants indeed served Shem and Japheth’s. One act of Ham led to the gruesome fate of generations and generations after and he was the last born. See the similarity between the Bible and my live example? Last borns, let’s not let the love get to our heads. Let our hearts receive it, but let’s keep the boundaries.
Even if this isn’t limited between parent and child, spouses or siblings; let’s draw lines amongst ourselves as well. Just because we share a bedroom or a bed, doesn’t mean you have guaranteed permission to wear my shirt or shoes without even asking. We must keep the respect and honor.
Parents who express their love to one child more than the others; you are in danger of having the other children plotting to murder your Joseph. As you express that love, draw wise boundaries as well. All your children are gifts from God! Some will be destined for so much more yes; but make the rest as well feel special!
Even if the Bible says we should love our neighbors as we love ourselves; young adults whose feelings are allover the place, even if you love that boy or girl, draw boundaries to avoid temptation. An example could be pushing each other to the other’s residence … but not staying long especially in late hours, or where you are too alone in the absence of witnesses or accountability! You know what I mean.
Samson rejected some boundaries like falling in love with an uncircumcised nation’s girl. If he had observed that at least, we would not have reached the point of the cutting of his hair.
I’ll end with love between you and God. Yes we have transgressed His grace. His overforgiveness has made some of us so comfortable with our iniquities. We think because He is merciful — with mercies new every morning, we can keep going late to church, or strolling somewhere else online during our devotion time with Him.
Because He loves us doesn’t mean He won’t call out our bad morals. And sometimes, when He does, some of us tend to the scale side of offence; and the devil chances on that, saying, ‘Which father embarrasses like that? What love is that?’
Some of us are comforted by his false allegations, and we walk away, choosing to go the wide way. Song of Solomon 2 refers to such as small foxes. Small things like not setting boundaries here and there as far as our relationship with Him is concerned.
Free or not, I think the parents’ bathroom should remain parents’. Requesting things from siblings or friends is honorable. If God speaks to us to go, we must. We shouldn’t question His judgement, like Jonah thought twice or thrice about going to Nineveh.
You see some of us have taken His love for granted that we can even say no to His requests — which could involve saving of lives!
Saying ‘no’ to the very person who made you — who enables you to even say ‘no’, is preposterous! I’ve learnt to set boundaries even on my mouth; the things not to ever say to Him! The things not to wear even if He loves me unconditionally! For He is still the God who made the earth open and swallow up 3000 Israelites alive!
I know there is the doctrine of free will, but it’s wise also to remember, He is the one who gave us will.
May He teach us more and more of this wisdom, that we may flourish not only with Him, but with our parents, siblings, friends and spouses.
You could as well comment for others some of the ways you think are examples of good or godly boundaries you’ve set, practised, or seen others do in the affair of love.
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