Do you remember, when we held hands and prayed … believing for that child?
Do you remember, when you fasted and prayed, and fasted and prayed again, believing for that spouse … and that job?
Do you remember, when you longed for that house, for that 72-inch screen, for that Mercedes Benz?
You envied your colleagues with children! They had birthday parties and baby showers which you attended and contributed to financially. You sighed in thanksgiving prayer, imagining how you’d hug your baby boy, or baby girl! There was a wonder … a hopeful expectation … a sweet sensation in your mind.
Fast forward, you have three children. You are grunting & grumbling over the unending diaper changing! Your teenager doesn’t want to do the ‘course’ you want him or her to, let alone the chores. The middle child plays a lot dirtying the house plenteously. As a result, you become short tempered. You start envying people without children, or you can’t just wait to leave them all to the house-help as you go on an escapade to work!
You lost the wonder!
You forgot the awe of having children … of you becoming a nation … of children being gifts from God … of not having to envy or be jealous of your peers who have children already. Do not worry, they’ll be taught of the Lord. In the meantime, remember that wonder, pull yourself together … raise those royals … teach them in the way they should go, so that when they grow, they won’t depart from it. Fix the wonder and all challenges with the children will fade.
Oh, the nights you cried, and the hate for everyone, who reminded you about how older you were getting, and yet no one was interested in you! Fast forward, he comes back late … maybe it’s work, but you don’t believe him. You start threatening to leave him.
You forgot the wonder!
She’s added a few kilograms since you said ‘I do’. She’s been baking your buns, whose key ingredient you have been providing! Your eyes have become supercilious. Straying for the slimmer females. You forgot the wonder … of how she was once your morning star … how her coming saved you from the shame. O yes, a wife you’d found, a good thing you’d found.
Should we say the good thing went bad?
Y’all used to purposefully go on date nights … you gifted each other often. Now it’s like strangers in a room. Are you waiting for the widows and widowers to show you how privileged you are!
Fix the wonder, and all the flaws will fade!
The job is getting busier and hectic. You can’t wait for a leave. You’re grumpy at the table, kicking the cats on your way back home! The traffic is unbearable, and all of a sudden, you forgot the wonder of having to earn. The awe of not being a laughing stock by your peers.
Do you want the unemployed to teach that wonder to you again! Fix the wonder … change your attitude for starters … be thankful for being employed, and you’ll fix the job.
Proverbs 14:4 says ‘Where no oxen are, the trough is clean; but increase comes by the strength of an ox.’ If you want ox, expect ‘work’ to feed them. If you have the babies, expect to clean the poo. It comes with the package. If you receive the car, expect to run it on fuel, and take it for servicing.
The costs come with the package. The house? Expect to pay the utility bills! But do not let the cost that comes with the package make you resent the gift afterwards. Like Proverbs has said. Would you rather have a clean place and no ox (to help with the work)? Or bear whatever burden that comes with it, as long as the work incumbrance is neutralized!
Once you decide to get the ox, expect some inconvenience from it … BUT, remember, that inconvenience can not compare to how much work that ox will help you do!
Diapers, bills, spouse, children, costs … the same God that gave the children, job, spouse, house, … will provide whatever utilities that come along, will provide the grace needed to raise the children, the lessons and grace to stay married. For if He cares for the birds, how much more you!
Fix the wonder of His provisions, and the worry of the sustenance of all His provided will fade!
All good gifts are from above—the spouse, the children—are from God. Remember that when the lows kick in. It will preserve the wonder! And if things continue south, anything is fixable, as long as the wonder lives on.
A marriage can be saved if this wonder lives on. If it is in neither of the parties, divorce becomes inevitable. If the wonder is absent, parents will speak ill into their children’s lives, hurting IMMENSELY, the path to their destinies…
But if they remember what miracle that child is, they’ll have to do whatever they have to … to ensure that the miracle stays a miracle. They’ll spank, or correct or rebuke, in the end … but not curse, or regret having the child … or spouse.
May this help you preserve the wonder in all you’ve prayed for and have received.
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