You’re not Alone

In 2020, around May, I started a business called Bike Borough. Its aim was to lend out bikes at a fee, since public means had been hindered. There was a lot of market, a lot of potential. But there were no bikes. The business closed. I know how you can relate; especially if you as well have started a business and it failed.

Earlier in 2018, I was conned and robbed in the middle of downtown Kampala. I was traumatized for a couple of days. But my healing came quicker than I had expected.

You see, as I shared my robbery story, I realized many people had been robbed before, and others were threatened with knives.

For my case, I handed over the stuff in an eerie way. But I left without no scar or beating. Having heard about 7 stories of my friends being robbed, I felt better! I can’t explain it.

There’s a healing that can only happen when you discover that you are not alone in a specific situation.

C. S. Lewis said, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”

In high school over 20 of us were once caught late for morning prep. The chaplain (who too was the prep master), threatened that we would be suspended. It was the Friday before PROM!!! Our suits had already arrived. The girls had to see us impress them! Now you’re saying we worked hard for nothing!

As the chaplain went through the boys, pointing his large 12-bulb-torch at us, he discovered that almost half of the boys were the ‘christian union’ boys, or the ones who help him run the chapel…

“Biggie, my son! You too?!” He exclaimed as he switched off his irritating torch.

We were pardoned instead, and punished to work at the boys’ dormitory waste area, burning all rubbish.

That principle was clearly seen in the example above. The chaplain’s discovery of ‘holy people’ among the law breakers and possibly having expelled them could have caused him an unseen condemnation. He instead punished us.

1 Corinthians 10:13 says, ‘There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].’

Temptation could be giving up on that business. It could be feeling sorry for yourself. But see how God says that such things are common to man!

Miracles do happen, but it is common to man, for students to fail exams. Don’t beat yourself up for having received a retake. That has happened, happens, and will still happen to so many people.

Siggwe asose. Siggwe asembye.

You’re not the first to suffer such, nor will you be the last.

You’re not the first to have been dumped by a boy or a girl, nor will you be the last. That has happened to thousands across the world. You’re not alone.

Toli wekka!

SISTERS, you’re not the first to have been not invited to a wedding or a baby shower or a bridal shower of a friend you thought you were very close to, nor will you be the last. That has happened to thousands across the world.

In all this, understand you’re not alone. Understand that it hasn’t happened to only you. It’s part of living. So dust yourself up. Return to ‘thee’ positive vibes. Let healing come from the fact that many others have experienced what you have, and they are still alive.

The world didn’t stop moving because you were not invited to some birthday party, or because some other man scratched your car while in traffic.

What’s the notion here; Like a bicycle throws one down the first time they mount it, the more they get up and be courageous to try one more time, the better they get at riding.

Not knowing is that fall from the bicycle. Once we know that such things are COMMON TO MAN, we’ll have mastered riding the bicycle of life, and so we will act appropriately and be content the next time any such things happen, having understood that merely living comes with the price of us having to endure a few things that we may not be expecting or liking to go through.

It’s just what it is; living in a fallen world (though saints)… And having friends with free will, who can choose whether your important or not.

But before you point fingers and agree, remember you as well, have not invited some of your other friends to some special event of yours (like maybe your graduation). So it’s random when some other person you thought was close doesn’t contribute to your cause. It’s okay. Maybe they were not financially well at the moment…

You’re not the first nor last who has experienced this. You’re not alone! May such cease to faze you!

It is well, and it shall be well with either parties.