In 2019, I was having a conversation, amidst a group of friends. Some were married, others had given up on marriage, and others, well, were about to get married. As the conversation microwaved on, everyone began sharing their expectations of marriage.
One of them said he wanted ONE child; ‘and it has to be a boy!’ He kuggumiza-d!
‘Eh!’ Several suggested, ‘What if it is a girl?’ ‘What if you get an extra boy in round one?’ I made matters worse by adding, ‘What if you get triplets?’ The atmosphere became tense. Our pal became frantic and he stood up and left.
Hello my dope reader, I am Biggie, and I’m here to tell you, that some decisions in your life are not entirely up to you; starting with who your parents were to be, or by what hospital or country you’d make entry into this world. It was never up to you.
In the same way, to enjoy the rest of your life, you have to come into agreement with the one from whom your life’s up-tos emanated. God is He. Why? It is because everything visible that was made wasn’t made without Him. You inclusive!
So, before you admire that small piece of land that is right in the middle of the city and beg Him to secure it for you, before you rush to buy off that condominium at 200 million, ask Him, ‘Is this the one? The house (or land) you’d like me to buy?’ After He answers, make the move. If it is to go ahead, go so. If it is not, be still!
Before you buy that gadget, ask Him, ‘Is this the one? The phone you’d like me to buy?’ After He answers, if it is to go ahead, go so. If it is not, be still!
Before you bring on that person as a shareholder in your business, ask him, ‘Is this the one? The millionaire you’d like me to buy?’ If He reveals to you that that person’s morality is wicked but hidden, be still!
Not consulting God about such life’s fundamentals in a sense means you are your own creator, trying to write your own story; unmolded clay commanding the potter into which shape it’d like to be amalgamated into! That’s pride, and a fall comes next after it.
Also, before you start buying that girl multiple items and splashing Uganda shillings and notes on her, ask God, ‘Is this the one? The girl you’d like me to marry?’ After He answers, if it is to go ahead, go so. If it is not, be still! In Christian circles, many have conformed to the standards of this world, choosing to take their unwise peers’ counsel, after their own relationships failing to work!
Brother! Not every woman will fit the shape of your missing rib! Take this seriously! In the book of Genesis, Eliezer, Abraham’s servant was sent to find Isaac, Abraham’s son, a suitable woman to marry. Can you imagine your father sending someone to scout you a wife! What if you do not like the selected specimen!
Anyhow, Eliezer went on to ask God for guidance, and once this lady he found was asked to go with him as a wife-to-be, she never thought twice. Isaac love the specimen, and she too loved back! A perfect rib she was.
Later I discovered that Eliezer means ‘helper’ and Jesus told us that the Holy Spirit is a helper suitable (John 14:16,26) News flash; He’s supposed to help you locate you spouse! Whether you are female or male.
Ask God every little thing, for it’s in those little things that delight Him as a father. Inquiring is one thing common among children.
Pride begins when you think you are too grown up to consult God in specific matters of your life.
When we deny the fact that we didn’t consult God, we let it out through anger, just like my friend did in the first paragraph when he suggested that he wanted one child.
It’s one thing presenting your personal script to Heaven and it is another, for you to present a script that is critically identical to the one Heaven has, which was written before the foundations of the earth took shape.
How can you receive the later? Be fully conscious to your oneness with God until His desires become the desires of your heart. You’ll find yourself yearning to build in a specific place or you’ll find your heart beating only for a specific person, or for business, you’ll find peace partnering with a specific person.
So, don’t just jump into marriage just because you love the chique! That is so cheap a reason! Everyone else in the world does that. What will make you different?
Furthermore before, you say ‘I do,’ have a 100-year vision plan. How much wealth should you Mr. and Mrs. so and so be worth in 2120? Will you have begun a global Walmart? Will your last name carry so much economic weight as the Rockefeller name and more? Will the purpose of your marriage just be filling the earth with kids, or having utter dominion? Will you consider educating a few a thousand unfortunate children or feed a few 5000 in your town of birth? What will the world benefit from your marriage? Or you’ll be another couple passing through!
When you are able to answer the question marks to all these statements, then you can by all means say those two magical words. If you can not, for your sake, be still!
Finally, if you are about to get into marriage, not only have the vision for marriage in its entirety, but a vision for your particular marriage as well, which I can’t tell you sadly, because I am not your maker!
Go ask Him yourself!
He’s expecting you…
📸 [Mr & Mrs Samuel & Victoria Bbosa ©]
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